Ten Easy ways to beat admission anxiety
It is a time of stress and anxiety as students grapple with the reality of mark sheets and college lists that do not include their names.
The advice to all parents and students, especially those joining Undergraduate degree programs, is that it is not the end of the world if your child does not get into the most coveted institution in your city.
There are plenty of colleges in the city delivering the same program, offering the same university degree as most colleges in a city are affiliated with the same university.The statistics report that there are enough seats in the entire university system to accommodate 90% of the high school graduates in diverse disciplines. So, do not panic. Be wise and do not chase a particular college due to peer pressure, prestige or social status These are very fragile and momentary symbols that are not worth the tears, the tension, or the stress of the admission process. It is important to realize that the first degree is not the end of the road, but the first step into the real world of competition. Many opportunities, new pathways to success are ahead. Heartwarming stories from numerous professionals and entrepreneurs are that their success has often no link to their specific undergraduate institution but rather to their overall performance and ability to make the most of every opportunity.
The truth is that an institution per se has almost no influence on things like future happiness, job satisfaction or even income and first salaries.
1) Accepting reality is the first step to mental peace. Get real and accept that the marks are not going to change, nor is the competition going to reduce suddenly. The difference between first and last lists is barely two to three percent (sometimes less). Do not live in a dream world or wait for a miracle to happen as it just prolongs the anxiety and you may miss the achievable.
2) Look at other realistic course and college options which match the academic profile.
3) Accept admission wherever you are a match as just holding a confirmed seat reduces stress and gives you a psychological relief. Most colleges will refund your deposit and return your original documents within four working days of the request for withdrawal, in case you get a better admit.
4) Once you accept an admission, review it realistically in terms of the pros and cons of taking that course. An objective review of the choice in hand will help you realize that there is no difference in the academic program or course content from your first choice college.
5) Most important reality is that your desire for the extracurricular features or the ‘crowd’ that is the differentiating factor of your coveted colleges can be achieved in several other ways.
6) You may be surprised to discover that your college too offers a range of activities and may give you more opportunities to prove your talent and leadership than a competitive scenario. In many ways, there is learning and confidence building in being among the achievers, taking the lead as a mover and shaker of any college.
7) Look around you and explore options to join clubs, societies, non-academic activities and vocational or hobby classes. Remember that the crowd you are chasing does not limit itself to the college alone. There are plenty of activities in a city that draw students from diverse colleges together, where you may mingle and make friends with diverse groups.
By Dr. Pratibha Jain